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August 11th, 2012 at 06:53 am

feeling a little deprived. Facebook is getting to me lately with friends and family posting about their Hawaiian vacation, Cape May, beach outings every weekend, concerts, etc. Aside of my occasional outing to New York City, we tend to put every extra cent we have paying down our overall debt. It takes a lot of sacrifice and determination to live way BELOW our means to do this. We are getting there and honestly seeing our balances go down drastically keeps me going. I say "me" because my husband is a very low maintanance guy. He is perfectly content with going to work, watching TV and having a couple of beers here and there. I know most of these people are charging their vacations on their credit cards and it's funny most have complained about their financial situations and how broke they are. Have you ever felt the same way?

13 Responses to “I'd been...”

  1. ThriftoRama Says:

    Yeah. facebook can do that. The funny thing is that studies have shown the site can make you depressed, because everyone on there is posting mostly only the very good stuff in their lives, or are polishing things to make them nicer, so those of us reading it get the impression other peoples' lives are happier and more interesting than our own. Don't fall for it!! Maybe Sa needs their own facebook group.

  2. creditcardfree Says:

    Yep. My sister and her husband went to Hawaii. So pretty. But her husband has been unemployed for over a year now. They did have help from his parents since it had been planned for over two years...but jealous? Only a little bit.

  3. Ladya70 Says:

    Live like noone else now so you can live like noone else later

  4. monkeymama Says:

    For the most part the reward has always been far sweeter than the sacrifice. But, I can relate that if I turn off the computer and don't talk to people, it's easier. It is amazing the power of suggestion. Seeing things I never heard of makes me suddenly want them. On a scale of 0 to 10 I may be a 1 or a 2, but it's easy to be a 0 if you live in a cave with no outside input. Wink
    FB itself doesn't get to me much because the focus seems to be a lot on material things. *meh.* That, and most everyone is in deep financial doo-doo.

    Actually, this is why I spend so much time at SA. Keeps me grounded. I think it's important to have balance, but if you only feel these feelings on FB, then I'd turn off the FB.

  5. Shiela Says:

    I used to feel like that when we first bought our house. Everyone else we knew did the Europe thing, went out every weekend, bought designer stuff, etc.. Most of them still lived at home while we had to pay mortgage and saved for our wedding. But now the situation have some what change almost all of them have just recently bought a house (near the top of the market)or in the process of buying one. They are just starting this journey now whereas we are actually starting to see the finishing line. When i look back at our journey I don't think we really did that badly, maybe not as great as living overseas travelling for a year great but we managed to have fun is our cheaper holidays. Just last night we had dinner with a friend of mine that just came back from Europe for 3 weeks, she went last year as well for 4 weeks. Last year she was very happy about the trip but for some reason last night she spent more time talking about the places that she didn't like. So really you can have fun anywhere.

  6. LuckyRobin Says:

    I know that one day we will get the big Hawaii vacation and one day we will go to Europe, but it'll be when we can afford it and when we have saved up for it. It's not worth mortgaging our lives for.

  7. North Georgia Gal Says:

    I know what you mean. I often get jealous of the people my age who get to stay home with their kids. I never got to do that and I regret it.

  8. LittleGopher Says:

    Mostly I marvel at how others can afford some of that fun stuff (I can guess...) but I don't begrudge anyone, and know we are in the "get our four through post-secondary schooling" mode (nothing to sneeze at!!)

    Lately, my fb world has been hit by a rash of serious health issues, and it's been a chance to rally behind those needing prayers and support (and meals or visits too.) When it gets to me, I'll maybe check once a day or every other day, and remind myself to not take for granted my and my immediate family's good health and situation, as well as having a caring and loving family and community nearby.

  9. PNW Mom Says:

    Absolutely! I think most everyone at some time feels that way, it is hard not too...after all....we are human! And it is true about facebook....I love the idea of our own facebook page! When I get down, I try to focus on the good things....places we have been and experiences we have had, and think about the future and working hard towards our goals....not only to be debt free, but to be able to afford the things we want and the places we want to go.....wihtout going into debt.

  10. frugaltexan75 Says:

    It's not the trips/fancy gadgets that get to me ... it's all my high-school classmates and college classmates, etc., getting married and having kids. All the pics of their kids ... that's what gets to me on FB.

  11. -Jerry- Says:

    Yes, it can be disconcerting to see all of the stuff that people do, but it is vital to keep the most important things in mind! Also, unless they are posting their (true) financial status on FB, you don't know how many of those people are making stupid money decisions to lead to those trips. I would rather have some insurance of enjoying my life on honest and wise terms, rather than trying to keep impressing people whose opinions don't really matter. Don't worry about it! Smile Jerry

  12. ceejay74 Says:

    Yes, it can be rough. I definitely have desires that cost money that I'm suppressing in order to get our financial house in a better order, and seeing FB friends and acquaintances post about them can cause bitter feelings sometimes. But I temper my envy with a slightly superior thought that most of the people posting about their eating/shopping/traveling are most likely putting off taking their futures seriously, and thus getting themselves in trouble they'll have to deal with later.

    Not my finest moments, these petty little mental struggles I have because of Facebook. But, I'm only human.

  13. Ralph Says:

    I am very happy that I never got into Facebook . I am not a very social person, so I never had a desire to do that! And as far as vacations, while they can be great (not always!), they are not worth any financial stress.

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