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Just a thought

April 25th, 2015 at 09:09 am

A few years ago, a coworker told me that I was cheap. I told her that I was far from being cheap and that she was confusing my frugality with being cheap. Granted this is a person who chose to buy Christmas presents rather than to pay her mortgage, so I never should've cared of what she thought of me. I learned the hard way not to talk about money with coworkers or friends, for that matter. I choose to do many frugal things in order to afford things that I consider to be important to me. Things like helping my Mom financially, paying for my sons' college education, vacations and things to make my house look presentable and organize. Believe it or not, small sacrifices can make a difference in one's finances and quality of life and it has paid off for our family in a big way. I decided that even though I will never discuss money matters with anyone (other than my fellow SA Bloggers) I will never be ashamed nor care about what people think of my frugality.

10 Responses to “Just a thought”

  1. creditcardfree Says:

    I like your thoughts. I agree fully!!

  2. monkeymama Says:

    Totally been there. It's always been a really odd thing for us because we have always been more dream pursuers, prioritizing what is truly important to us. It's amusing to be called cheap while having everything we could possibly want. (& having many things the Jones would want anyway). I mean, boohoo, my spouse doesn't have to work and we've been in our dream home for 13+ years. Somehow we make do with all the deprivation. Wink {The comments would be in regard to driving older cars, not willing to eat out often, etc. Or just having to say no to a splurge that we aren't interested in. But that we should be interested in because the masses are}.

    It gets interesting with age because all the years we made do or did without are just becoming distant memories. It does feel like the very small sacrifices have always paid off tenfold, for us.

  3. Ima saver Says:

    I agree also. I have always been called cheap, yet I have lived in a paid for (very nice, I might mention) house since I was 30 years old. And driven very nice cars too. So what if I don't have expensive clothes?? I don't want them.

  4. rob62521 Says:

    Well said! It is interesting that the folks who spend wildly are so quick to make snap judgments on how people try to be frugal. It isn't easy to save money. It is a challenge at times, but those of us who do, are often ridiculed. Today in Mary Hunt's column she said being frugal isn't always easy. And I'd agree.

    But the benefits are there. Plus I think we start to feel satisfied with what we have in our lives which makes us enjoy life more.

    I agree, the folks who have criticized me have said things that bother me, but I shouldn't let it bother me.

  5. ceejay74 Says:

    Agreed! It's not about denying everything (unless you're in a particularly hard financial patch), it's about making choices, some of which go against the common grain of spend first, worry about it later.

  6. ThriftoRama Says:

    Ha! Some of our friends (lovingly) make fun of us for being cheap, but here we are, 15 years later, and we are the only ones of those who are financially solvent, without cc debt, and with savings in the bank. If people think we're cheap, great. Wear it like a badge of honor.

  7. Buendia Says:

    My friends call me quirky! I think that there are a lot of qualities that they think are quirky (frugality, enthusiasm and spreadsheets!). I'm wearing it like a badge of honor, too!

  8. Joan.of.the.Arch Says:

    Thumbs up to you and to all who have responded.

  9. VS_ozgirl Says:

    I wouldn't say you're cheap, I would say that you're awake! Awake because you think about what you want, and then decide to go without things to get what you want. To me, people who spend according to society's norms are asleep. And definitely people who would choose buying Christmas presents over paying for the roof over their head are 1) asleep and 2) proof that they are the kind of people whose opinions are not worth listening to. As long as you are living a life that makes you and your family happy and are not hurting anybody, nothing else matters.

  10. CB in the City Says:

    People who spend foolishly and blindly will always call financially responsible people cheap. It's their mindset.

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