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The good and bad

March 27th, 2018 at 04:11 pm

It is a year today of my sister's passing from kidney failure complications. I'd been feeling sad for a few days now; unable to sleep well and thinking of her a whole lot. My sis was not just my sister; we were super tight and our bond was immeasurable. I miss her every day. People keep telling me that she is in a better place and as a Christian I believe she is but I don't know why it bothers me so much to hear that. Maybe because I am selfish and just want her to be here with us. I just really hate hearing that, especially when they say, "Don't cry, she is in a better place." I took the day off from work today, I could not fathom dealing with kids and coworkers. Frown

On the financial side, everything is going well. Part II of the Mini Lofty Saving Goal was completed today with our federal income tax refund. I am on to the next one. Moving to warmer pastures is still tugging at our hearts and we really want to make this happen but it will take for us to save as much money as we can.

This is for today. I hope you are all having a good week.

5 Responses to “The good and bad”

  1. PatientSaver Says:

    I am sorry you are feeling sad today. I think that comment would bother me too; it's sort of discounting your feelings and I think you are entitled to feel sad about it. Is there some small gesture you could make in honor of your sister, something you know she would approve of or feel proud of? Just thinking....

  2. creditcardfree Says:

    ((Hugs)) I can completely understand that comment being upsetting. A better place implies that you shouldn't miss her. And you definitely should feel whatever you feel. Grief isn't just a one and done type of event, it is a process.

  3. livingalmostlarge Says:

    so sorry for your loss.

  4. CB in the City Says:

    I always think people who offer platitudes like that haven't really experienced a painful loss yet themselves. But also, so many people just don't know what to say and they make blunders.

    The anniversary reaction is well-known among counselors and therapists. You wouldn't be human if you didn't feel sad on the anniversary of a beloved sister's death.

    My grandsons are grieving the loss of their other grandmother and today is her birthday. They are sending up balloons with loving messages to her. Any little thing you can do in your sister's memory may help you through.

  5. rob62521 Says:

    I am sorry that you are missing your sister. It really never leaves. We just learn to live with loss.

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